Men must be reprogrammed to love, not lust after, their wives.  Love does not rule out the strong sexual desires or fulfillment of them in marriage, but does refine and sweeten them so that the maximum satisfaction and benefit can come to each partner in the union.
 
 Women must never use the bedroom as a time for bargaining or airing of grievances.  There is time for this, but it is not when the husband is romantic and aroused with desire for relations with his wife.  If she presses such things on him at such a time, one of two things will happen.  He may quickly accede to her every demand in order to have his way in bed.  However, repeated episodes of this nature will build up a deep resentment against her for doing this to him.  On the other hand he may begin to develop an aversion for sex with her because of the emotional price he has to pay.
 
 Woe to the woman who puts her man through these gymnastics in order to consummate a sexual relationship.  He may find he can do without her nicely or find a substitute in another person, his work or some other outlet. Males are equipped with a very strong sex drive but if a woman thwarts him repeatedly on various pretexts, she will live to regret it. 
 A wound to the male vanity in the area of sexual adequacy or potency is very difficult to heal and even more difficult to live with.  Many women have discovered that it would have been far simpler to have accommodated their spouses more often rather than to face the results of their repeated refusals and rebuffs which created deep frustrations and anger in the husbands. 
 
 Because sex is such a mental thing, the real meaning of the sex act can easily be destroyed for the male.  It then becomes nothing more than a physical release of pressure, much like urination.  This can trigger dangerous dissatisfaction and restlessness in a male and has contributed to marital discord and breakup.  No wonder the Bible admonishes older women to teach the younger to love their husbands. (Titus 2:3-5)  Unfortunately many of the older females have damaged their own marriages by sexual rationing to their husbands and what they teach the young will not help.
 
  Man must learn to bridle and control his sex impulses and not expect his wife to satisfy him always, regardless of cost to the wife.  He must learn to pace and practice abstinence for the benefit and blessing of the wife.  Mutual happiness is the goal, not unbridled satisfaction of one partner at the expense of the other.  Many men enter marriage like spoiled brats who have always had their way.  They have never denied themselves sexual pleasure whenever they desired it, either through sexual relationships or masturbation.  They must recognize this as childish selfishness and work to satisfy and please their mate rather than themselves.
 
 Many men force their wives into oral, anal and other sexual perversions. What they do not realize is that this gives openings for spirits to enter, setting them up for homosexuality.  In this realm what a women can do, a man can do better, because he understands male anatomy and responses and can be quick to comply.  These practices can cause a man to fall into the snare of perversion when the situation is right.  The same is true of a woman and lesbianism.  Fear of Homosexuality is a driving spirit in many American men, primarily because most have at some time in their life had homosexual contacts.  They fear falling into the snare and therefore throw up a great facade of hatred of anything   resembling homosexuality.
 
 One man in his thirties I dealt with recently, while in the fifth and sixth grades, was introduced to new erotic pleasures by some older buddies.  Mutual masturbation led to oral sex.  After he finally broke off the practice, he was left with a fiercely demanding habit of masturbation.  He had no further homosexual experiences, but became exceedingly heterosexual, plunging into many affairs, which often involved oral sex with the women. 
 
 When he married, he and his wife experimented with many forms of sexual gratification detailed in the sex manuals, including oral sex.  After they were both saved, by mutual consent they dropped all such things and settled into a satisfying sex life without any of the former overtones of perversion.   He came to me seeking release from a terrible foreboding sense of fear which tormented and upset him.  It was vague and he could not analyze exactly what it was.  As I prayed with him, the Lord said it was Oral Sex and a deep-seated terror of being a homosexual.  When I questioned him about this area he told me of his encounters as a youngster.
 
 When I demanded that the ruler of Oral Sex manifest, a cackling laugh came forth and he informed me that he was an exceedingly powerful spirit and had this “fool” for all these years and by no means would he come out!  He declared that he and Homosexuality had this “stupid bastard” bound and they would never release him.  I pointed out that the man had no homosexual contacts since he was a young teen and also that he was very happily married.  The demon snarled,  “I know it!  That lousy bitch, we would have gotten him a lot of times if she hadn’t been so damned loving and met his needs.  But we still have him…and he doesn’t even know it.  That fool!  He has fought so against us.  I tried to get him to look
at the other guys in the showers and locker rooms.  Damn him, he just won’t cooperate, just goes home to that bitch he married.  I even arranged for him to have a gay roommate in the service and had guys approach him at work.  The idiot!  He could have such fun if he would just listen.  I hate his guts, and I hate yours too, Worley.  We’ll still get him though.  We’ve got our hooks in him and have made him so miserable and the dummy doesn’t even know where it is coming from.  For years we had him hooked good on Masturbation and tortured him regularly with that, but he got control over that.  Damn him!  We’ll get him back though, and wear him down.  Let him climb.  We will shoot him down eventually for we are all still here.”  Deliverance eventually dislodged them. 

 Oral Sex spirits lodge in the lips, tongue, taste buds, jaws, mouth and the throat.  They are also in the sex organs.  After dealing with many spirits of perversion, we know that they can enter through the eyes, the ears through participation, active or passive.
 
 In one case, a friend of mine was delivering a woman who had been introduced and forced into oral sex by an uncle when she was only five or six years of age.  As she grew up she continued this with her dates.  At her deliverance large gobs of slimy material were vomited which reeked with the strong odor of male semen. 

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 The marriage was a disaster mentally, physically and financially.  There were constant fights that often turned into brutal brawls.  There was resentment, hatred, adultery and a daily life that was impossible to bear.  I left my husband and daughter twice for a short periods of time, returning home because I had nowhere to go.  By now not even my parents wanted me.  I drank, smoked pot occasionally and turned to other men for a release from the horrid, dull life I had made for myself.  Everywhere I turned the walls were closing in on me.  I felt I couldn’t breathe.
 
 My daughter was now three, old enough to see the hatred between her father and mother.  One night I realized I did need God after all.  My husband and I began to fight about 3:00 in the morning.  As always we started to hit each other until it became so violent that we found ourselves lying on the sidewalk in front of the house with his hands around my throat.  In the background I heard crying and, looking up, saw my little girl in the doorway.  Her arms waved violently as she screamed, “No, Mommy, no, no, no!” 
 
 That was more than I could stand, something had to change before I lost my mind completely.  For some time my sister had been asking me to go to this church she had found.  That was the last thing in the world I was interested in, but I knew I had to go.  One Wednesday I went.  Love and the power of the Holy Spirit were there that night.  I received the baptism of the Holy Spirit and for the first time I could remember, I was absolutely, undeniable happy. 
 
 Soon my husband began to attend and received Christ as Savior and the baptism in the Holy Spirit.  Even so, there was still tension and hatred between us.  As we continued to attend services we heard messages on demons and demonic bondage.  The Holy Spirit began to reveal where our sorrow and unhappiness had come from.  I made up my mind to seek deliverance from the things that had enslaved me so long.
 
 Two nights before my deliverance, we got into a fight that turned out to be the most vicious we had ever had.  At the end my husband threw me against the door and as I fell to the ground I said to myself, “You fool, you stupid fool, why did you ever think it would change?”  I got up, walked to the bathroom and slit my wrists.  When my husband saw what I had done, he rushed me to the hospital where I was stitched up. 
 
 Satan was waging war and I was the battlefield.  I knew God could free me from this bondage and determined to ask for prayer.  The following Sunday we went forward for prayer.  When the deliverance session was over, I had been freed from spirits of Hatred for men, Lust, Perversion, Rejection, Fear, Murder, Suicide and Resentment for my daughter.  I was exhausted, but felt much better and calmer.  Within the next few months I returned for prayer and spirits of Hatred for my sister and my father, Jealousy, Envy, Hypochondria, Masochism, Drugs and Alcohol left.
 
 There is today a new love in my life–one of which I am not ashamed.  I’m in love with the Lord Jesus Christ.  I praise His holy name for the wonderful Spirit-filled Christian husband He has given me and the pure and deep love He has given us for each other.  What a miracle, that out of the ashes of lust, selfishness and depravity, God could create a genuine love and respect between two people who started out so badly.

 Unfortunately he is walking around with a “time bomb” inside of him.  At a crucial moment the devil can bait the hook with an attractive person, sure to appeal to the victim.  Before he knows it he can go into a dizzy spin with spirits inside reviving with horrible power.  He can become so dazzled that he seems unable to respond to control, reason or other appeal from loved ones or friends. Disaster often follows with terrible tolls on the victim and everyone else involved.  Does it always happen?  No, but it has happened often enough that it is a distinct possibility and we would be wise to consider it. 

 For this reason, the command of Jesus to cast out demons must be scrupulously obeyed.  Every spirit must be ruthlessly hunted down and ferreted out for they are capable of bringing about just such a tragedy as described above. Deliverance is not just an option or an interesting sideline but must be a vital concern of everyone who would be used of God.
 
 The big three in destroying a man are sex, money, and power.  One is sufficient to destroy.  The sex drive gives impetus to a leader in any field, and all successful leaders have a strong one.  If not dealt with in total surrender to the Lord, that which gives him his drive can also become the Achilles heel and be his undoing.  This is why Paul had so much to say about curbing and controlling oneself.  The deeper the hooks have been swallowed, the harder it is to dislodge them.

The following is an excerpt from “The Devilsh Side of Sex, Booklet #1? by Pastor Win Worley. Copyright © 1983 by Win Worley, Revised © 1991. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including storage and retrieval system, without securing permission in writing form the publisher, WRW Publications, PO Box 852626, Mesquite, TX 75185.

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 The more times a man had crossed the sexual lines of demarcation in the past, whether in masturbation, heterosexual or homosexual activities, the more difficulties he will have in breaking with the past.  This is a simpler matter of sowing and reaping, and must be expected and guarded against.  Satan has a way of dredging up every filthy and exciting moment of the past to hurl at his prey — at his weakest moment — to inflame and engulf him with passion.  Not only does the enemy trade on your actual experiences, but those which you have witnessed or about which you have heard or read (pornography).  These too will be used to bring surrender to lust.  Self pity is also employed to goad the man into the act.

 Regarding the morning erection; the devil lies, the man is not oversexed at all.  If he will go to the washroom and urinate, most of the time the erection automatically deflates.  The cause was physiological, not sexual.  During the night urine accumulates in the bladder which lies upon the prostrate gland.  As the pressure from the urine in the bladder increases, sensitive nerves in the prostrate are triggered, producing erection of the penis.   There are other times when passion presses strongly.  Again, there is at least a partial reason for this, from a physical standpoint.  As the hormones and seminal fluid build up in their various reservoirs (prostrate gland and testicles), the organs may become slightly swollen, even a bit sore.  During these times the male tends to be more irritable and has a feeling of being under pressure and tension, without necessarily knowing why.

The following is an excerpt from “The Devilsh Side of Sex, Booklet #1″ by Pastor Win Worley. Copyright © 1983 by Win Worley, Revised © 1991. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including storage and retrieval system, without securing permission in writing form the publisher, WRW Publications, PO Box 852626, Mesquite, TX 75185.

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